• Negative verbal
  • Negative nonverbal
  • Asking the child to report - spy
  • Exposing the child to too much information related to adult issues.  This scares them, and places doubt about the value and safety of the alienated relative.
  • Extending a negative campaign to the extended family,  and outside the family
  • Withhold affection
  • Avoid socializing with you
  • Does not allow you to express feelings
  • Blames you for problems...real or made up
  • Deny that their behavior is abusive, or minimize it by belittling you
  • Attempts to change or control you
  • Try to control you with lies or contradictions
  • Try to control with emotions
  • Demand to control a situation
  • Demand that you ask permission constantly
  • Gives away things you have presented to your grandchildren
  • Threaten to hurt you in some way
  • Feel parents place negative pressure on the situation​

Signs of Alienation

​​Because we have deep love for our adult children and grandchildren, we may tend to allow abuse to continue;  whereby, otherwise walk away.

Alienation is willful intimidation.  It is an epidemic affecting families, and has no socioeconomic boundary. Abuse tends escalate without the grandparent making sense of what is occurring, perhaps using subtle and unconscious programming.

Are you experiencing any of the following?

  • Withhold communication with the grandchildren in the form of visits, phone calls, emails, letters, and/or post cards
  • Keep you from, or severely limit your ability to talk with or visit your grandchildren, with or without informing you of reasons
  • Avoid including you at holidays, birthdays, school functions, and/or social occasions
  • Grandchildren not allowed to express their feelings toward grandparents
  • Unusual behavior from the adult children toward the grandparent
  • Adult children may ignore your feelings, or make you feel uncomfortable
  • Grandparents feel their son or daughter has been brainwashed by his or her spouse
  • Grandparent feels the daughter-in-law or son-in-law speaks for their son or daughter
  • No approval or appreciation of what you do for your grandchildren or your adult children
  • Put you down, sometimes in the presence of grandchildren
  • Irrational behavior such as rage by an alienating parent (adult child) as he/she tries to drive you to accept the situation in the crazy place where he/she is

AGA Florida

Bradenton & Sarasota Chapter